"I Love him, that will take us through"

“I have discovered that choosing whom to marry based on romantic feelings alone, is often misleading. Romance tells us nothing about character and is extremely unreliable as a method of determining the viability or vitality of a relationship”-B.Odukoya

       If you use the butterflies that you feel, as the basis for marriage than I must say that you are making a grave mistake.  I am not underestimating the need for romantic feelings to be present in a relationship but marriage needs far more than just the feelings to survive the obstacles that life brings your way. In today’s world with the outrageous divorce rate, the majority of the couples who end up in a messy divorce would testify that they once “loved each other”.

So, is marriage about ‘love’? Not entirely.  What those who opt for a divorce seem to misunderstand is that marriage was not promised to be a smooth ride nor a bed of roses like Hollywood portrays, on the contrary. 


Let’s turn to the Holy Bible for a minute. Locate 1 Corinthians 7 verse ²⁸ which states that “those who marry will face many troubles in this life” (NIV) .
The Bible does not promise you a perfect fairytale like the majority of young women envision, but plenty troubles. As youths, there seems to be this notion that “once I get married all my troubles are gone” but this is just a myth. 


     Brace yourself and depend on God, and God alone. Invite Christ Jesus into your relationship, at least with him you are sure that when the storms are raging(which they will);he won’t be too far to help. 

“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” 
                                                                              Ecclesiastes 4:12(NLT)