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Sunday 22 July 2012

Are We Suitable?

Marriage is definitely a good thing because it is ordained by God (Genesis 2: 18 - 24) from the beginning. After creating everything and Adam, God took a look at him and observed that 'it was not good for the man to be alone...and decided to make a helper (a wife) suitable for Adam. 


The point therefore is for men and women who are considering marriage to seek God's face to find out if their potential partner is 'suitable' for them. Just like our faces and names are different, so is every individual's definition of suitable. Thus, here are some suggestions for a christian:



1) Take the idea and your plans for marriage to the Lord in prayer; 


2) Then observe (during courtship) to see if the potential life partner has the fear of God in them. Here, one will really need to depend on the Holy Spirit to help them discern the true character of the person. This is because we human beings are good at hiding our true characters especially when we feel we desperately want a relationship with someone. This is really important because one needs to ascertain that the person shares ones faith in our Lord Jesus Christ even if the two people are at different levels in their relationship with God. Other issues that may matter to some (not all) people are race, family background or age differences


3) Be honest and real in your daily dealings and contact with the person;


4) Test your ability to communicate with the person, and his/her ability to communicate with you


5) See if you are at peace or comfortable with the person even when they annoy you. This is when to see if there is love, because love covers all things


6) Is the person kind, does he/she respect or care about your feelings. Would he/she protect or disgrace you in public even when they feel your behaviour is embarrassing and you do not think it is


7) Do not be in a hurry, just take one day at a time, trusting that you will know when the time is right to propose (for the man) and to say yes (for the woman). 


8) Ask close friends and family members to pray for you


9)Discuss real issues like finances, housing and how you will keep a home as a couple, children etc...


10)Establish a habit of praying and studying the word together. Study what the Bible says about families particularly husbands and wives e.g Ephesians 5: 22 - 33; 6: 1 - 9 and many more... and then


11) Pray trusting that you will hear God right, see Him clearly, and have the courage to obey Him, when you have been able to ascertain that the person is 'suitable' or 'not suitable' for you. 


May God help us all in Jesus name...!

Wednesday 4 July 2012

10 Signs That You are Not Ready for Marriage !


Below is a YouTube video that I stumbled upon and to my surprise it was quite interesting. It is worth your time. She talks about ways to know when  you simply are not yet ready to be a wife/husband.
  • Here are five glaring signs  that you are not ready for marriage.To know about the other 5 signs, click on the Video.

1) You don't have a Heart of a servant.
2) If the word 'Obey' and 'Submit' appears to be offensive to you.
3) You do not like to pray/ lack a prayer life.
4) Your reason to get married is because you are burning with desires. 
5) You are suspicious and jealous prior to the marriage.