"The Good Wife" by Callie

No, this article is not about the T.V show the 'Good Wife' but  about being one (... at least giving it a try or a thought). It is written by Callie in an article that she titled " Me, a Cheerleader?" 

So today I was recalling something I once heard in regards to a wife and her role in a marriage. I once heard someone say that when we wore our beautiful white wedding gowns that really we were wearing a fancy cheerleading uniform. At first this idea seemed silly to me, but after thinking about it I realized that is exactly what we were wearing. 

Our husbands desire respect and approval from us so desperately and we need to be behind them cheering them on and letting them know we think they are awesome. Imagine what it would do to our husbands self esteem if we were to become an encourager, a motivator, and a cheerleader on a daily basis.

Imagine what it would do to our husbands if we were the opposite. If we were naggers, and complainers. Scripture tells us in Proverbs 27:15 that "A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet", I don't know about you but I hate the sound of a leaky faucet. The problem with not being a cheerleader and encourager for our husbands is that they need praise and they crave knowing they are great at who they are. Many men become workaholics and a prime reason for this is because they get praise and recognition from their bosses or fellow peers at work.

Ladies, hear my heart, the last thing we want is for our husbands to be looking for this type of attention from anyone but us. We need to become cheerleaders for our husbands, if not for the sake of our marriage then because God commands us to do so. We are commanded by God as Christians to "Encourage each other daily" (Heb. 3:13), this alone is reason enough to put on our cheer gear.
I confess that throughout the course of my marriage I have not been wearing my cheerleading skirt or waving my pom poms around as often as I should have.

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When we show appreciation to our husbands for something, a light goes off for them. They associate doing something helpful with positive feedback. Men like feeling like they did something right, by our offering approval and thanks they tend to want to continue getting that from you so they will most likely help again.

When we give our husbands a happy home to come home to, it often sets the tone for the evening not to mention it keeps them coming straight home. This affection and eagerness to see him also makes him feel like he is the "king" of his castle.

Excerpt taken from christianwife101.blogspot.com