"The Good Wife" by Callie

No, this article is not about the T.V show the 'Good Wife' but  about being one (... at least giving it a try or a thought). It is written by Callie in an article that she titled " Me, a Cheerleader?" 

So today I was recalling something I once heard in regards to a wife and her role in a marriage. I once heard someone say that when we wore our beautiful white wedding gowns that really we were wearing a fancy cheerleading uniform. At first this idea seemed silly to me, but after thinking about it I realized that is exactly what we were wearing. 

Our husbands desire respect and approval from us so desperately and we need to be behind them cheering them on and letting them know we think they are awesome. Imagine what it would do to our husbands self esteem if we were to become an encourager, a motivator, and a cheerleader on a daily basis.

Imagine what it would do to our husbands if we were the opposite. If we were naggers, and complainers. Scripture tells us in Proverbs 27:15 that "A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet", I don't know about you but I hate the sound of a leaky faucet. The problem with not being a cheerleader and encourager for our husbands is that they need praise and they crave knowing they are great at who they are. Many men become workaholics and a prime reason for this is because they get praise and recognition from their bosses or fellow peers at work.

Ladies, hear my heart, the last thing we want is for our husbands to be looking for this type of attention from anyone but us. We need to become cheerleaders for our husbands, if not for the sake of our marriage then because God commands us to do so. We are commanded by God as Christians to "Encourage each other daily" (Heb. 3:13), this alone is reason enough to put on our cheer gear.
I confess that throughout the course of my marriage I have not been wearing my cheerleading skirt or waving my pom poms around as often as I should have.

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When we show appreciation to our husbands for something, a light goes off for them. They associate doing something helpful with positive feedback. Men like feeling like they did something right, by our offering approval and thanks they tend to want to continue getting that from you so they will most likely help again.

When we give our husbands a happy home to come home to, it often sets the tone for the evening not to mention it keeps them coming straight home. This affection and eagerness to see him also makes him feel like he is the "king" of his castle.

Excerpt taken from christianwife101.blogspot.com 

'A Parent's, "NO!" '...

Signs are everywhere.This is a very bold way to start a post but I desperately needed to get your attention. You absolutely cannot afford to make a mistake on what is considered to be a lifetime commitment, ESPECIALLY if the signs are everywhere. Amongst many signs, sometimes it may come from your own parents’ disapproval. 

Although you will be the one making the choice on whom to marry, you don’t want to do it without parental approval. Regardless of your parents’ cultural background or their level of education, it is important that you respect them and their opinions, well that is unless obeying them conflicts with the Word of God. If you truly believe that he is the man for you with the conviction from the Holy Spirit, dear unmarried woman, I advise that you pray about it. 

Talk to your parents about it and believe that God who revealed his will to you, would give them a change of heart. In Pastor Bimbo Odukoya’s book- ’How to choose a life partner’, she writes that “it is important that you marry with you’re your parents approval. Though you may be old enough to make mature and responsible decisions, always try to involve them. Apart from all other considerations, they have been around longer than you and therefore have experience that provides examples to either emulate or avoid.  Secondly, their emotions are not blinding them to character flaws and hidden motives ,as may be the case with you at this time […] I have discovered  that 70% of marriages that fail, did not have parental approval.”

You may ask yourself, “What if they are wrong and that costs me the love of my life?” Well, here is a young lady’s story that I came across who assumed she was on the right path to happiness but couldn’t have been more wrong …

Lindsay was a young lady, still in her mid-twenties who had just met Paul and desperately fell in love with him. She was used to a standard of living before Paul came into the picture. She could be described as a girl “who had it going on for herself.” She had men of all walks of life show interest in her beauty and charm and she often commanded attention in a room. When Paul proposed to Lindsay, she was ecstatic about her fiancé and hurriedly informed her parents. Unfortunately for her, her parents did not share her enthusiasm. How can her own Mom not see what she saw in Paul?

If only she had seen what her mother had seen in Paul, she would not have gone ahead with the marriage.

Soon after the wedding the tune of the music changed between Paul and Lindsay. He no longer was interested in her sexually and could barely look at her. The priceless jewel that she had been in his eyes slowly had become nothing but a pebble.At this point she had lost her self esteem, and would soon find herself running around seeking for godly council.  Paul started having affairs here and there and now Lindsay is toiling in regrets and series of “had I known”. Pregnant and with an unborn child she was already in the midst of a crumbling marriage.


Ephesians 6:1-3

Paul’s Advice to Children and Parents 
6 Children, obey your parents because you are Christians.^[a]This is the right thing to do. ² “Honor your father and mother³ that everything may go well for you, and you may have a long life on earth.” This is an important commandment with a promise.


**Story based on a true story but certain names, characters are changed to maintain the integrity of persons**